Feminism

My mom and I...a few years ago.
She taught me what it was to be feminine.

Feminism. Now there’s a word I hate! That one word has taken everything God intended a woman to be and trampled it on the ground while shouting, “You can be something better!” What can be better than what God intended? We are to submit to our husbands and take care of our children. Feminism distorts the act of submission. Submission is not giving in to man’s every whim as some would have you believe. Submission is respect for a husband. I state my opinion to my husband all the time on family matters. Sometimes he takes my thoughts to heart, sometimes he doesn’t. He makes the final decision that he thinks is best for us as a family. A man cannot feel like a man when he is not respected. Men go looking for what they need elsewhere. It isn’t sex they are looking for, but love and respect.

One day a friend told me, “When we are all standing before the judgment seat of God, the man is the one who will have to answer for all that happened in the family. I don’t want to be in the man’s shoes for anything!”

God intended women to be the helpmeet of the husband. We are to take care of our families in a way that only a woman can. To many, taking care of the children, cooking food and cleaning the house sounds like a prison sentence, but it’s not when you look at it through God’s eyes.

Another thing I learned is that submission is not giving up control. When there is a problem, I have to pray and leave it in God’s hands, not bully my husband around until he does what I want. God can take care of things so much better than I can.

I know one man that believes the woman shouldn’t have to obey her husband. They are miserable in their marriage. The little things he says that are meant to be funny are his true feelings and they’re hurtful. Anyone that knows him can see it in his eyes.

Feminism, as the world describes it, isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Women that once struggled to get out of the house to work in corporate fields are now struggling to get back home. If women played the role God gave them, I believe that there wouldn’t be as many teenage pregnancies and there wouldn’t be so many kids in Juvenile Hall. Women need to get back where God put them and that is making nurturing the family a priority, not listening when society tells them they can be so much more than a wife and mother. There is no greater calling.